Building Perspective With Your Spouse

Building Perspective With Your Spouse

Jonathan Bosman, LEGO® SeriousPLAY® Facilitator | Owner, BLOCK Party

My wife Sydney and I have been married for almost 6 years and we constantly deal with seeing things differently. One specific time, we were talking about how we wanted to redo our front porch and flower bed. I had a picture in my head of how I wanted to do it and after trying to explain it to Sydney, she tried to explain her vision to me. What she wanted didn’t quite make sense to me, so I re-shared my perspective, which didn’t translate well to her and so it went. I even tried drawing a picture of it, but the 2D picture still wasn’t working. At this point, we were both getting rather annoyed. Being the wise woman she is and knowing what my strengths are, she said “is this something you could explain to me with LEGO??”…so that’s what I did. As it turns out the vision in my head and the vision in her’s were EXACTLY the same, we just needed a visual to understand that.

This was just the beginning of me seeing how different people's perspectives could be more easily explained using LEGO®

Take this example. What do you see here?


Some see just six bricks. Some see a nice box. Some will say they see LEGO bricks with unlimited possibilities…and in a recent school workshop, a 6 year old girl looked at the pile and said “I’m going to build a duck!”

In our workshops we do in fact use them as ducks, but we quickly discover that everyone’s perspective on what a duck looks like is different and how these pieces can be used to make a duck is different.

This is some of what we do with BLOCK Party Date Night by using LEGO® SeriousPLAY® strategies. We ask questions about the dreams you have for your relationship and what support looks like to you, but instead of getting the answer that’s just off the top of your head, you are able to build your thoughts and build your answer. This creates a thought far deeper, more meaningful, and specific to you than words could do alone (read: "A Picture is Worth 1000 Words" for more details on LEGO® seriousPLAY®).

Come and join us at one of our next events. You'll be amazed at what you discover when you let your hands do the talking!